When someone we love passes away, our thoughts and hearts at first struggle to accept it. We resist acknowledging that the person we loved has passed away. The primary goal of a good at funeral services are to assist us in coming to terms with the fact of death. We must first acknowledge what has happened before we can grieve and heal.
Mourners have the chance to face reality and start the grieving process during a healing and meaningful funeral. The funeral is just the start of the grieving process, not its conclusion. We must learn to accept our new reality one without our loved one in order to move forward.
- Recall
Remembrance of the deceased is one of the funeral’s main tenets. This is demonstrated in the eulogy, the memorial video (if there is one), the selection of songs or readings, and the get-together of friends and family that takes place after the service. We assist ourselves in transition by remembering and talking about our relationship with a loved one.
- Support
The funeral’s third goal is to mobilise support. We assemble with other folks who know our loved one at the funeral. We can talk about our past, express our emotions, and get support from others. Mourners get the chance to unite and lend a sympathetic ear and a supportive hug when a funeral includes a visitation or a gathering.
- Expression
We are emotionally wired as humans. Deeply felt emotions that we consciously try to stifle can eventually become intolerable and cause an infection. Funerals are intended to serve as a secure setting where we may express our feelings. We start the process of healing by acting on our thoughts and feelings. With someone who cares, you might need to talk, cry, or just sit quietly. Whatever you might require, expressing yourself is a key goal of a funeral. By expressing our pain, we start to set it in action and move the grief journey along.
- Meaning
Many questions come to mind when someone we love passes away. A good life was it for the person I love? What caused this person’s death? Why do we all pass away? Although there are no easy answers to these questions, a funeral offers us the space and time to address them and start our journey toward finding solutions that bring us peace.
Conclusion
These goals are connected but not necessarily separate actions that must occur in a certain order. The entire funeral process resembles a rite of passage. With a new identity, a new relationship with a lost loved one, and a new relationship with our community, we emerge from this experience changed.